new trick (sorry, strategy)
Have come up with something new and can't believe it's taken me all this time to think of it. I now always start conversations from scratch even if we've been discussing something earlier. For example Ash has been painting the veranda at the back of the house which involved taking down the surf boards, body boards etc that had been stored in the rafters. Yesterday we discussed whether to put them back in case Jake wanted them in the future or whether to get rid of them. This morning they hadn't moved so I just said 'we really need to decide what to do with the boards. whether to hang on to them or get rid'. Ash's answer? 'Well I'm not putting them back up'. He'd completely forgotten the previous discussion but was able to make a decision without feeling stupid of getting muddled. Works well for me!