One step backwards, two steps forwards
Even though things are going pretty well we still have moments where life isn't quite on track and this weekend was like that. Most of Saturday Ash was grumpy and didn't want to talk except to argue then friends came over, we had a lovely evening and I thought we'd got through it. Yesterday morning however started off much the same and it felt as though we were moving backwards which put me into despair for a while but despair produces no change for good and I realised it was up to me to do something to pick us back up. But what? Something nice, something interesting, something to grab his attention and something for both of us. One of Ash's favourite past times is photography so I suggested a trip to the coast (only 10 miles away luckily) and coffee in the visitor centre at the local wildlife trust. I've been before through work but, as often happens when something is on your door step, we hadn't ever been just as visitors. I suggested cameras and binoculars and off we went. It was wonderful. We sat on a squashy leather sofa drinking (tea for Ash, coffee for me) and watching the birds fly over the marsh while proper bird watchers and walkers wandered along in front of our eyes. We stayed an hour by which time we both felt relaxed and so much better than when we arrived that it was as though we were different people. When we got in the car Ash asked which way I wanted to go home, the short route or the 'scenic' route. The 'scenic route' takes us past miles and miles of caravan sites which might be one of the wonders of the world but isn't particularly scenic and I thought longingly of my lunch but, as the suggestion came completely from him, I went with it and again it was brilliant. Ash knew where he was going, he pointed things out along the way, chatted all the way home and the weekend was saved. If you are in this position, and most of us are at some point, then work out what your loved one likes doing and develop it from there. It definitely helps.
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