Success rarely comes without commitment

Yet another really good meet-up with friends last night and the third in three days so we seem to be on a bit of a roll at the moment.  Things going pretty well in normal life too although there are always some moments when I kick myself for saying the wrong thing or doing something where I should know better.  I do  know though that I'm not perfect so don't beat myself up if I go wrong and am getting very quick at retrieving situations so feeling quite proud of myself really.  To get to where we are now however has taken hard work, planning, strategies and a determination I never knew I had.  I used to adhere to Quentin Crisp's theory that 'if at first you don't succeed maybe failure's your thing' and I have to say that it served me very well until this happened to us.  Now failure isn't an option.  If I try something and it doesn't work I have to start all over again; if I do something which triggers a bad reaction I need to backtrack faster than I've ever done anything before; if I try something that works I must take that experience and build on it until we're onto something even better.  All of this works so well that I sometimes pinch myself to make sure I'm not dreaming but it seems that we're both not only alive and well but having fun too which is something I wouldn't have believed this time last year.  I'm not saying this stage will last forever.  No-one knows enough about dementia to say in which direction we're heading but for now we're both loving life.  What I'm trying to say here is that I don't know how well (or even if) this will work long term and I don't know whether it would have worked if we'd been further down the road from the diagnosis when I started but what I do know is that it works now and if I can give one piece of advice it is this, if you are at the very beginning of your journey it has to be worth trying.  You do need to want your old life back more than you want anything else in the world and you can't give up at the first, second or even third hurdle but if you are resolute, committed and persistent it will be worth it I promise.

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