Drawing that line made a difference

Drawing that line twice in one week seems to have worked.  We've just had a very peaceful few days full of smiles and jokes and so it seems we're back on track.  I have learned not to hold my breath where any of this is concerned but I am optimistic that we've turned a corner and it just shows that sometimes you need to ignore the experts and go with your instincts.  I realise that it would have been completely the wrong thing to do if Ash had been further down the line with his dementia but this was a lesson in how a bully can develop if the conditions are right.  I do think that, as with children, the lack of boundaries made him feel anxious and that his behaviour was all about trying to discover what he could and couldn't do.  Now he knows not only has he relaxed but he is far more accepting of help.  He also seems to have taken on board how upset I was and the nice thing is that I know now deep down he doesn't want that, he wants me to be happy as he always has and for a while there I wasn't sure of that.  Knowing it makes all the difference.

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