Pride comes before a fall

This morning I was preening myself and feeling very proud of the fact that I haven't felt irritated by anything Ash has done for ages.  Not only have I remained calm at all times (except when trying to deal with Social Services regarding my mum and that doesn't count because it can't be avoided) but he really hasn't done anything that I've struggled with.  So there I am congratulating myself and polishing my halo when I make a throwaway remark about a group of people huddled together on the field outside our window and suddenly the peace is shown for what it is, a fragile stage in our lives and one which can unravel at any moment.  The remark really was throwaway, the subject was unimportant but Ash wanted detail and for some reason I thought he needed to know exactly what I meant.  I tried to explain but he couldn't picture the place I was talking about so I suggested we went out so that I could show him.  We got to the right place but by that time, unsurprisingly, he'd forgotten what we'd been discussing and so wanted to know all over again.  This went on and on in ever decreasing circles with him frustrated that I wasn't explaining things properly and me irritated because he wasn't grasping what I was trying to tell him.  In the end I think what happened was that he pretended to finally get the gist of it and I pretended to believe him so that we could get the whole thing finished and go back inside.  I'm now going to completely refurbish that halo and leave you to feel superior because you would all have know better.


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Comments

Ann said…
Yup....I recognise this scenario Jane. Don’t feel bad, from your posts it’s clear that you get it right more often then get it wrong. Onwards and upwards, onwards and upwards!
Des O'Sullivan said…
This is very sad, Jane, but your quiet strength is very impressive.

Please have a look at my little Youtube film: Living a new life

Lots of love. Des

Des O'Sullivan said…
This is very sad, Jane, but your quiet strength is very impressive.

Please have a look at my little Youtube film: Living a new life

Lots of love. Des

Jane said…
Have just looked at your film Des and it was so useful as well as uplifting. Attitude really is everything isn't it?
dasntn said…
Hi Jane

I recognise this!
For us, as time progressed, it came to the point I realised that sometimes lying to my wife was the best course of action.
She was happier and calmer, although it was hard to cross the line of honesty, but in the end it helped.

Being a bit of a musician, I wrote a song about it https://soundcloud.com/dasntn/what-is-right and it has even been played on BBC Devon and BBC Cornwall radio!
Jane said…
Have just listened to your song and it's beautiful. Not only that but it's so true and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing it.