Friends and how to keep them
I met someone last week who's in a similar situation to me but further down the line as her husband is now in a care home. We chatted for quite a while with me asking lots and lots of questions and then completely out of the blue she said 'and of course all our friends have disappeared'. It was the 'of course' that threw me as we haven't lost a single one, not only that but friends we haven't seen for a while have come back into our lives offering their support and, as you'll know if you read yesterday's post, we've even gained some brand new friends. So why have our friends been so amazing? I'n fairly sure they aren't the only nice people in the world but they're with us all the way where it seems in other lives friends have fallen by the wayside. I've thought about this ever since that conversation and I realised I've written about it before, in fact a whole year ago. You may have already read the post and remember it in which case there's no need to go any further but if you've either forgotten it or have only just joined us then you might want to click on the link https://www.memoryfortwo.com/2019/01/a-guide-to-keeping-our-friends.html to find out my views on keeping your friends by your side. I couldn't manage without any of ours.
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Comments
Our friends have slowly disappeared which makes me sad but ner mind as a family
We’re doin our best to get on with things (we’ve 2 boys 13 & 16y)
I guess I am lucky that my friends have very much stayed with me and helped me through this journey, but it is easy to fall off the radar when you are full time focused on caring for someone. I wrote a song about that (of course I did!) https://soundcloud.com/user-609107502/somethings-going-on-demo-version - not a very good recording but there you go!
David
I’m guessing my friends don’t really understand & are unsure how to deal with it I’m
More sad for my husband tho .. he’s still the same person but u love n learn
David I love the song. You always manage to put into words how I feel.