'New' Facebook page

In 2018 I set up a facebook page to work alongside this blog but never really got to grips with how to use it or what I wanted it to be for so decided to delete it.  Thanks to my amazing technical and IT skills this of course failed to happen and I recently noticed that the page still existed which got me thinking about it all over again.  Then somehow, having vowed and declared that I would never use them again, I drifted into a couple of Facebook dementia forums and was amazed all over again at how, on the whole, they are 'Vessels of Despair'.  Maybe I've just chosen the wrong forums but from what I've seen people go on to vent about their loved ones which I hate and then are swamped by comments such as 'don't worry, it's the same for all of us.  You just have to suck it up.'  Whereas what I think they should be saying is 'stop and think what changes you could introduce which would make a difference', 'stop and think how frightened your loved one must be' etc etc.  There is the odd positive and supportive comment (and briefly some of those were mine until I realised I was fighting a losing battle) but mostly those are ignored and the ship sails on unconcerned with how to make things better.  I'm sure I'm not the only one to look for the positives in this new life we're living, in fact I know from comments and emails about the blog that I'm not so, in a light bulb moment, I realised how I can use the 'Memory for Two' facebook page.  It will be an alternative forum for those of us who want to find out more about the positive side of dementia or who really want advice and suggestions on how to make life better for everyone around.  Positive minds and attitudes are what's needed from those joining the group and maybe it can be ground-breaking in its approach.  Certainly I haven't come across one like this but I'm going to need your help and support.  I have wider access to information on dementia now than I had in 2018 so interesting things pop up in my inbox all the time and I can share those but if you come across a new approach that's made a difference to your life or you've seen something that's caught your imagination or you've seen a wonderful positive quote or you've got some new information then you can share it on the page with everyone else.  And if you like what you're seeing then let other people know so they can discover a whole new world of positivity which might just help them to face the future more easily.  Here's hoping to see you on the facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Memory-for-Two-287197572048864/.

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Brenda Broadberry said…
It is lovely the way you are embracing living with someone with Dementia. Just wish more people would look at it the same way that you do. I am always singing your praises to others and encouraging them to read your blog. It takes a very special person to deal with it the way you are. Thinking of you both x
Jane said…
You always manage to make me feel good about myself Brenda. Thank you so much and keep spreading the word. Feel free to share the fb group as I'm sure you know lots of people who can comment and/or share information.
dasntn said…

I seem to have already been a follower of your Facebook page, so I will continue to do so! Positive support is much better than negative ranting, but I do understand that sometimes people need a way to get things off their chest.
Jane said…
I understand it too but think there must be a more proactive way of 'ranting' or of helping than the standard 'well what do you expect when you're dealing with dementia'.