Say yes

If you're very lucky, before dementia enters your life you share that life with someone you love, someone who makes you happy, someone who makes you feel good about yourself.  That special someone will put his arms around you just because he wants to, he'll give you a kiss just because he loves you and he'll hold your hand because he wants to feel connected to you.  All that happened to me but sometimes I didn't appreciate it.  Ash didn't always pick his moment perfectly.  Sometimes he'd want a kiss when I was dishing up the tea; sometimes he'd want a cuddle just as I was leaping out of bed, late for work; sometimes he'd want to hold my hand as I was trying, with fear in my heart, to negotiate my way along a boggy footpath so, as you can tell, sometimes I shook him off or turned away because the time wasn't quite right.  What I've learnt over the past few years is the importance of enjoying those moments; of embracing, in more ways than one, the times when someone has the ability to make you feel special; of taking the proffered hand when it's there. Whatever the circumstances and however bad the timing can I suggest that you go with the flow because you never know when it will all be gone.  So if your husband/wife/love of your life wants a kiss or a cuddle, wants to hold your hand, wants to tell you how they feel about you, take that moment and enjoy it while you can and don't think you have all the time in the world.

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Hello, I found you through MCIAlice of Alice in Memoryland. My husband has early stage Alzheimer's related dementia, and lately I've noticed an increase in his inability to function. My blog is on I write about my life and the world around me.
Jane said…
Will have a look. Nice to know there are other people out there who know wht this is like.
Jane said…
forgot to ask what your blog's called.