Just when I think I've found a solution .......

 I had such a lovely day yesterday that I'm smiling as I tell you about it.  The morning was taken up with a trip to our local town which was in the middle of market day and when we'd bought what we'd gone for I suggested we had coffee at one of the cafes overlooking the market auction which was in full swing.  Ash agreed and we sat for half an hour in the window of the cafe watching and commenting while the world passed in front of us almost as we would have done in the old days.  Got back home to find a friend waiting for the coffee we'd arranged and I'd forgotten about but it wasn't too late and the lovely thing was that Ash was so full of life after the trip to town that he not only talked to said friend but also showed her the photos he'd taken of the market in action.  Oh my goodness, for a short time I had my husband back and it was so lovely.   Even in the afternoon when he decided not to come with me to visit friends and see their new garden room he thought about it first and said 'no' with a smile which made a pleasant change and then, when I got back, yet another friend called for a cup of tea and once again he chatted and showed off his photos.  At that point I decided we'd go out for a drive and a coffee more often as it obviously did him good.  Well, what do I know!  Got up this morning with my resolve still intact, had breakfast, looked at the pouring rain which usually makes him want to leave the house and escape, suggested coffee out and was met with a blank stare and the question 'why?'.  Why indeed.  I really should know better by now.  Every time I think I'm onto something to make his life and mine better and more interesting the world shows me otherwise.  But at least we had a nice time yesterday.



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Comments

Sarah H said…
Maybe the spontaneity was the key yesterday? Just a thought . . . Hope it can work again.
I know that experience all too well. Am enjoying your posts very much.
Tehachap said…
You had a blessed day, and I'm sure it made you forget for a while that Ash had anything at all wrong with his mental state. What a joy to have him back, if only for a short while. So very sorry his mood of yesterday didn't continue on. Treasure the positive memories!
Jane said…
I thought spontaneity might be the key but tried it this morning when we were once again out just to collect something and still no joy. It's almost as though that's done for this week at least and doesn't need doing again. Anyway, onwards and upwards, am sure we'll have more good days in the future.
Karen said…
It is hard to plan for the day when you don’t know how Ash will respond. This disease is the great unknown. I am realizing that my husband is grumpier and more irrational in the morning for the first two hours so I leave him alone and watch the morning TV shows. This morning I had to drop the car off for an oil change. We talked about it last week and he thought it was a good idea. This morning he was furious and wanted to know why I had taken over his job. I can’t win but I have to shrug it off.
Jane said…
Shrugging it off is the only option isn't it! but I find it very difficult to avoid feeling hard done by when something like that happens as it does on a very regular basis.