Staying sane in a tilting world
There are some things you can learn about dementia, facts you can look up, strategies you can read about, but there are some things which have to be experienced to be believed. I've written in the past about dishcloths piling up behind my back, about pork pies lurking in cupboards rather than sitting quietly in the fridge where they should be and so on and I've learned to live with those without comment or even surprise but currently there are three habits which are driving me crazy. The first is the pile of logs in the shed which seems to grow higher by the week. You might think this is nothing to get frazzled about but the thing is that we have a perfectly good log shelter as well as a storage 'thing' that Ash built under the veranda. If the logs are in either of those two places we both know when the stock needs replenishing. If the logs are hidden away in the shed however Ash in particular forgets they're there and keeps insisting I order more. I used to believe him and a couple of years ago spent a fortune on logs that we didn't need but I've grown wiser and now check to see what we do and don't have. I have no idea why he's taken to putting them in the shed but it really is a case of 'out of sight, out of mind' for him at least. So that's one habit. The second is dish cloth based again because he's started cutting new dish cloths in half which means we're left with two cloths neither of which are any use whatsoever. The third is the bin bags. We don't have an actual rubbish bin in the kitchen but we do have a small enamel bucket next to the sink and we have compostable bags to line the bucket with. Ash has decided these bags are too big and so has taken to trimming them around the top with the scissors which means that they don't hang over the rim and as soon as you put anything in they collapse and are no use whatsoever. I've obviously learned that there's nothing to be gained (and everything to lose) by mentioning any of this to him so am now trying to work out how to get round them. I think I have solutions to two of the three issues but the dish cloth situation is completely beyond me for the moment.
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