A light bulb moment

 Lovely, lovely day out with friends today.  A whole six and a half hours with hardly any rushing, an excellent lunch and a wander round a garden made particularly interesting because one of my amazing friends knows about these things and could tell us all we needed to know.

Ash was left behind but definitely not home alone.  He had the pleasure of L's company and between them they made the usual cheese scones and cooked chilli which was ready and waiting for me when I got back.  On top of that they went into town for tea and cake and seemed to have thoroughly enjoyed themselves.

Before I went out I did have a moment of revelation.  Usually I leave cash for L to pay for the tea and cake but, for some reason, this morning I realised how much nicer it would be for Ash to pay for it so handed the money to him instead.  You could almost see his confidence grow as he found the wallet he hasn't used for months and put the note inside.  Think from now I'm going to make sure there's always a note in there then I can just remind him he has money to pay and hopefully it won't feel like a handout from me.  

The thing is that most of our monthly income is because of Ash anyway so it really is his money.  I mention frequently that without his work pension we wouldn't survive financially, a fact he's very proud of, but maybe it's time he had something more tangible to remind him and make him feel needed.

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