Yet another light bulb moment
My latest light bulb moment happened yesterday and I can't quite believe I hadn't thought of it before.
Ash's speech is getting more and more jumbled and frequently, it seems, he comes to tell me something but struggles to get the words out.
This is such a great improvement on the days, months and years where he didn't bother talking to me at all that I've been trying really hard to understand what he's saying and to turn it into a conversation. Now Jake and I did learn, when we went on our course with Contented Dementia, that a good move is to murmur soothing things when your loved one is talking to you so I did know that but these were times when Ash sought me out to tell me something he'd just seen on the news or had glimpsed out of the window.
Yesterday I realised that at these times he doesn't actually want or need a conversation he just wants to share his thoughts with me and the best way forward is for me to accept the thought, respond with warmth and leave it at that. He's told me what he wants to tell me and whether I've understood or not is totally irrelevant.
This is so liberating for both of us that I felt a need to share it with you. Having said that, I might just be slow on the uptake and it's something you've already discovered for yourselves but then again maybe not.
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