Being relaxed really is the key

Last night was really lovely and reinforced everything I've been saying about my moods being reflected in Ash.  If you read yesterday's post you'll know that I came home particularly stressed and exhausted and found Ash more uptight than I've seen him in a long time.  He had no idea what day it was, where he was or what time I'd been due home.  Apart from the couple of years leading up to the diagnosis home has always been my sanctuary and as soon as I've walked through the gate I've felt the stresses of the day begin to melt away.  I was surprised to find that yesterday was no different.  I walked in the back door and, even though I could see what was facing me, I felt myself relax and that really is the key to everything.  Tea was organised even though Ash didn't realise it so that was easy, we ate on our knees in front of the fire as we still have no central heating and then for the next three hours we watched all of his favourite quiz shows.  As we sat watching the television I could almost feel him uncoiling and soon he was passing comment on the contestants, answering questions and asking how my mum was.  Do you see what I mean about lovely?  The lesson here is that even when life is at it's most stressful it's so important to relax whenever you can.  You may think it's an impossible ask but there will be a way if only you look hard enough and it will make all the difference I promise.

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