A controversial thought

I had the thought this morning that this journey through dementia might get a little easier as we go along.  I can hear some of you take a deep breath at this point and especially those of you already struggling with mobility, feeding, incontinence etc because obviously I don't really know what I'm talking about.  We're not at that point yet and I know that physically Ash is still very fit; he can still walk quite a way, he sleeps just like he used to, his appetite is just as it was but I wondered whether, as those skills diminish, it might be easier emotionally to deal with all of this.  At the moment you see I'm caught between two worlds and one of those worlds often fools me into thinking he's still here.  A quick joke, a smile, a suggestion that shows he's thought about me, all trick me into forgetting just for a short while that he's slowly disappearing from my orbit.  I grab those moments when they happen and then, every single time, I'm disappointed to find all over again that life as I once knew it has gone never to return and that's why I wondered if, just possibly, in some way, this might get easier to deal with as we move along the road.


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Comments

Anonymous said…
I agree Jane. When you are in the middle ground it's really confusing emotionally. Further down the road it's clear what the destination will be so less false hopes. It also personally speaking makes detachment from the past person and acceptance of the new person a little easier. X
Jane said…
that's what I'm hoping, especially the last sentence so thank you for your comment. In a strange way it gives me hope.
Anonymous said…
I understand completely ....
dasntn said…
I agree as well. The later stages bring more demands on your time, helping or taking over all of the minute details of their life (some of which can be a touch unpleasant) but the emotional strain is far less. Going out by yourself takes planning and someone else to be there to keep an eye on them. But the person you used to know is so far gone that for me it seems that I am looking after someone else entirely, and that makes the emotional strain much easier, for me. I did almost all my crying in the early years.