It's a new day .......

..... and my head's in the right place once again so all is (almost) right in our world.  Ash is happy and relaxed, the dog-walking check list is working and we're back on track.  When I look back I think we've been building up to yesterday's outburst over the last couple of weeks and it was obviously necessary for Ash to get rid of some of his frustration.  It's happened before and it's almost as though he comes to boiling point and needs a release for all those feelings so he prods, pushes and goads me until I snap and give him an excuse to shout at me until it's all out of his system and he can relax a little.  The problem is that he's left feeling better (eventually) and me?  Well I just feel drained and exhausted afterwards as well as guilty that I let it get to that point in the first place.  I really should know better but sometimes it all gets too much and a controlled anger takes over.  Anger that he doesn't acknowledge how much I do, anger that he doesn't notice how easy his life is and anger that he doesn't realise how much I've given up just to get us through each day.  But then I shake myself, put my shoulders back and count my blessings of which there are many not least of all the place we live, the friends I have and the things I'm still able to do.  There are people much worse off than me and it's only when I have a bad day like yesterday that I find myself in the depths of despair, when I hate my life and when I really wish this was over.  Luckily those moments never last long and so you find me today almost back to my usual self.

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Comments

Cornwall Girl said…
You're amazing Jane all us carers are amazing. The ability not to lose ourselves during the process of caring is huge but can be done and you're a great example to us all.
Jane said…
thank you but think it's just a necessity if I'm to survive this and come out the other side still whole.
Dr2n said…
Boy, do I hear you!! Today I found myself feeling bad because he doesn't seem to care about me at all. But I was able to realize, again, that it's nothing personal. That made me feel much better. And the mornings I have given myself by getting my butt out of bed at a reasonable hour are golden. I have time to myself. I walk 3 days. I play piano three days. The smile on my face lasts all day long. Better for him. Better for me. Alls not right with the world but my life is so full!! And your attitude helped me see that it's ok to make myself happy!! Thanks, girl!!
Jane said…
For me it helps to feel as though I have some control over what's happening in my life and I know that really I'm the only one who can make me whole hence the running, the losing weight, the new clothes, all help and all make me happy. It's not a bad life is it?
Dr2n said…
Not bad at all!!