A morning off!!!
Our second day with the carer today and, once again, it seems to have gone rather well. I hope I know better by now than to expect it to go perfectly every week but I do feel we're making progress. I had a plan of course, a plan which would explain, on a basic level, why I'd gone out and a plan which I hoped would ease us into a new way of living.
This week, on advice from others, I didn't mention L coming until 9am (she was due at 9.30) and that worked because Ash didn't have time to panic. He thought he might wait until she arrived and then take her for a walk with the dog but he wasn't sure where to go. At that point I reminded him that he'd promised her, if she brought her wellies this week, he'd take her down through the wood at the other end of the village and he seemed pleased with that idea. L arrived and off they went with the only slightly sticky bit coming when I said I might be out when they got back but we got him out of the house and I took myself off in the other direction leaving him a note saying I'd gone for a walk with a friend and letting him know what time I'd be back. This is something I do two or three times each week so it would make perfect sense to him and I made sure he saw me picking up my walking boots before he left even though I had no intention of doing anything as strenuous as that.
I have to tell you that I had a lovely morning with a tanning session followed by a drive up the coast to my favourite cafe where I drank cappuccino in the sunshine while reading my book. This was only the second day since last October when I've had time by myself without worrying about how Ash was and what he was doing and it was wonderful. I got back at 1pm to find them getting ready to go on another walk (L is going to be super fit very, very soon I think) and there was a slightly weird moment when Ash looked at me as if wondering who I was and what I was doing in his kitchen but if this means I get a day off a week I can live with that.
Next week it's my mum's birthday so I'm planning on having the whole day out, spending some of it with her and the rest relishing the peace, quiet and time with my own thoughts. I might even go and look at hedge trimmers!
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